Friday, April 17, 2009

A close knit relationship

It is a terrible feeling if someone leaves you.Is it?
Someone you love???
A`person is capable of loving only that person in which he worships his ideals,his values,thus,in turn in which he sees his reflection.There is no other way a person could love and be loved.Just this.And if no values exist for you,then u'll get attracted to another depraved person,an altruist or a person who believes in giving love to the unworthy(could be in any form).Your choice reflects you as a person in every aspect.The kind of people you be with reflects your ideals and not even a single contradiction must exist in such relationships.It is like a close knit circle.The members form the circle and ultimately meet up one another with the same ideals set in their minds;but if they fail to meet then their exists some depravity somewhere which must be excluded.So,if a person leaves you,it completely shows his lack of compatability with your ideals.After all he must be a reflection of your consciousness and being with you would only result in his act of lying to himself,which in turn would destroy him eventually.When happiness is the sole purpose of life then why would he repudiate his own happiness by being with such a person.So the best option is to leave that person.And this must be accepted with great understanding on both the sides.I think it's a wonderful feeling if 'such a being' leaves you.It is terrible for only those who have no ethics set in their lives,those who are incapable of thinking and if someone 'like this' leaves them then they reach upto a level of taking revenge.
But,yes I think it is very important for two such people to clarify all this in between themselves.It is a must requirement and people who are capable of thinking would definitely understand such a state in their relationship.At times,although it is of no use trying to tell all this to unthinkables.They say-'How does it matter the kind of people you be with'.They could never understand this.So just leave them without any explanations.They would feel terrible for the first few months but later on would develop such hard feelings against that person and would try their level best to prove him wrong.It is is such an amusing gesture!
But,if someone whose ideals match with you and leaves you then believe me at some point of time they'll again come together.Such people are capable of loving each other so much that at some phase of life that love develops into reverence.They deny 'it' to each other due the very thought that they need someone in their lives(totally unbeareable to them),but ultimately fail to do so and end up being with each other.
One case,for which no forgiveness is ever possible is when the person 'pretends' to understand your ideals,'pretends' to support your every thought with his own thoughts,never denies anything but ultimately ends up following none of them.Sooner or later his actions betray his intentions.His contradictions act as a limelight and justify his actions.Finally the consequence is always separation,but mind you it hurts a lot for the only reason that at one point of time you end up giving your ego to him.All others are forgivable but these.
For me,this is the only way relationships should be held,a rare sight,yet it is there.

9 comments:

  1. I agree our choices do reflect us!
    Very nicely written anisha... :D

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  2. ...And the irony is that when you do find your alter ego..someone who perfectly fits your ideal love, life plays this funny game of separating you from him/her.
    I never thought I would say this, but yes, there is an upper limit to the choices you can make in life.

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  3. Manee:)
    Yes true!!!

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  4. "When happiness is the sole purpose of life then why would he repudiate his own happiness by being with such a person"-
    if this is the purpose of life according to u then I believe u should not take "Love" as a subject of ur blogs.
    Because perpespective that u have mentioned in the above article can be very fatal for people in love because love is above values,ideals etc.
    When you have a reason to love someone ....its not love its not even infatuation....it is just a fulfilment of somekind of need which exist at some the corner of need hirarchy.

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  5. I am very much agreeing with the Anonymous comments. But all the people are not that much prudent. I believe in Indian culture we define love and relationship in different way as compare to western cultures. Most of the people live for society not for themselves. This is the main issue I found in India . people have lack of acceptance.

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  6. Ok, First of all, respect to your thinking...great thoughts! nicely written...so binding that it keeps one reading till the end....but i actually have a little different thinking about love and ideals!...if a person gives up his ideals for someone's love, sacrifices his own wishes to support someone's thoughts, his/her life is full of sacrifices for that someone.....then it's love, love needs no ideals!...Ideals, however, are important in life....they make a person who he/she really is, they mould one's personality, makes a person understand differences between opposites in life...right and wrong, love and 'not love' etc. So they are important in one's life. But what is more important in life....'love' or 'ideals'? Is giving up your ideals for love a wise decision?....these are the questions in my life....I guess the phase in my life now has inclined me towards ideals, but sometime back it was love....but the arguement is still well in doubt!
    Anyways, kudos to your writing skills and your thoughts! I appreciate people having their own unique ideas and philosophy :)

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